Category Archives: Observations/Lessons

If there’s one thing we could all benefit from it’s a healthy dose of self-confidence. I know, some of you big Doms out there are thinking, “Heh, I’ve got all the confidence I need.  I’m a handsome stud with muscles … Continue reading →

A drag queen, a leather cop, and a boy walk together down the sidewalk each with their own unique posture and gait: she is elegant and smooth, he is strong and assured, and the boy struggles with the weight of … Continue reading →

I’m standing against the wall of the Eagle scanning the red-lit bodies and thinking, “Who are these men?  Who are we as a group?”  A shirtless muscle daddy with a dirty jock hanging out of his back left pocket fondles … Continue reading →

As the holidays approach and I make plans to head home to celebrate, I’m preparing myself for the inevitable awkwardness that comes up when interacting with my conservative Christian family.  I love my family and I have a strong sense … Continue reading →

The first time I went to CODE at the Eagle and saw all the guys in their gear, I thought it was hyper-masculine dress up.  I perceived leather to be on the far, opposite side of the spectrum from drag; … Continue reading →

Recently I shared about my ventures in the Leather World with my straight female friend, Caroline.  As a dear and supportive friend she exclaimed,  “That’s so exciting!  Sounds awesome!”  and followed up with a less enthusiastic,  “But you don’t really … Continue reading →